Toldbysarah's Blog

Try to be kind everyday. Even the smallest smile or genuine compliment can  brighten someone’s entire day. Make every one in your life feel important. Recognize thier good qualities and remind them that you’re happy to have them in your life. Radiate optimism and positive energy. The rewards will last you a lifetime.

Happy Thanksgiving to all! Forget what you don’t have and be in awe of what you do. And not just the obviously amazing stuff like your family and friends. But the little things that you might overlook on a day-to-day basis. Like having food to eat and a warm bed to sleep in at night.

Life is so unbelievably short and it doesn’t make sense to ruminate over the things that “could have been.” It sounds cliché and cheesy, but live in the moment.  Because when you think about it, the past is just a memory. And the future is just anticipation. The only real, tangible thing we ever really have is the present moment. So look around you and be in awe of how many incredible blessings you have. That way Thanksgiving isn’t limited to just one day out of the year, but every day

So a friend recently asked me: “What should I do when an ex comes groveling back?” Now first, there are many questions to consider: Do we turn up our noses and give the ex the cold shoulder? Or do we actually allow ourselves to reconnect with them? And if so, what should we be expecting? That they just want to reconnect, or that they want to give the “relationship” a second chance?

It’s important to remeber the reason the relationship ended. If there was cheating or emotional/physical abuse, don’t even bother reconnecting. Even if they promise that ”they have changed,” don’t give in. Circumstances change, but personalities rarely do. If it was in your ex’s nature to cheat or abuse, then forget it.

However, if the relationship ended because of long distance, school, or work, it might be alright to reconnect with the ex in question.  Remember to initially take things slow and catch up over lost time.